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Undervalued Carers
on 01 Oct 2008
One of the things that really winds me up is when things seem unfair, and that people do not get enough credit for what they do. This was really brought home to me this week when I saw an advert for a full time Learning Support Assistant position. I couldn’t believe that the salary for this post was just under £9000, in an age when we have got fat cats and business men raking it in, who in my view contribute very little to society. Such assistants are responsible for our children, helping them academically and socially in school. In Michael’s school, the LSA’s are additionally responsible for intimate care, as well as attending to the specific, challenging needs of children who have complex mental, physical and medical conditions.

I volunteer two days a week at Michaels school and I have seen first hand the fantastic job that these people do with just half an hour break for lunch. Personally, I can’t think of any job more valuable than giving anyone the care of our children and I think that it is scandalous that such work is viewed and rewarded so lowly by society. Not fair!

On a lighter note, Michael and I were talking about Halloween the other day after he saw a display in the garden centre. On discussing the tradition of Trick or Treat, Michael looked quite bemused by the whole thing (not surprising really - it sounds quite ridiculous when you actually try and explain it!!) Suddenly he said “Why give Treaters chocolate - give carrots, apples. Sportacus says!” Good old Lazy Town - looks like our house will be the healthiest and least popular house in the street!!

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Suroak
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Reply #1 on : Sat October 25, 2008, 20:53:37
When my son R was first diagnosed with global developmental delay at 18 months, we avoided many parties. As he began to show progress and began to speak I took courage and went along. I don't know if others noticed or not but what I did find myself doing was "making him perform"., so if someone spoke to him and he did not respond I would re- phrase the question to ensure he would reply.(This sounds awful and I feel ashamed as I am writing this and sharing it with you all, but in justification this was my survival technique-I don't know if I was trying to prove something to myself or to others. It did mean that my other son at least was able to go along and enjoy the party.)However last year we were given the diagnosis of autism and I don't know if it is this (finally being able to give R's difficulties a name) or the realisation that things cannot be hidden anymore that has made me more forthright about telling people. And yes I have found people to be understanding ( and probably very glad it's not their child).What I have also noticed is that by telling people a huge pressure is lifted from me, my son R and his big brother S (who will now tell people if asked). I can then begin to enjoy myself and spend quality time with R at the party instead of worrying if people are watching. This process has taken almost 5 years and I am sure you will get there Gulnar in your own time.

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